Step 1. You need to be passionate enough about whatever that is, to commit to 30 days of wishing them happiness and to be curious about what could be behind their assholery.
Step 2. Sit quietly or walk (depending on your personality you might need the movement of walking) and find that curiosity – “Holy shit is it really possible that I can change the way someone else is behaving by doing this?”
Step 3. Wish them happiness – Just a simple wish, no big drama. Mean it if you can. If you can’t mean it yet, no problem. I suspect by the end of 30 days you’ll be able to. <3
Step 4. There’s two ways of doing this next step:
- For 30 seconds, just simply pay gentle attention to and be curious about the feelings that come up within YOU.
- You can also ask yourself the Magic Questions “Whose are these feelings and what do I need to know or do about them?” as they come up. And that’ll speed up the ahha moments that will change everything.
Step 5. Notice what feels good within you and appreciate the heck out of it. Soak it up. Feel the yumminess of it. Notice what changes in their behavior and appreciate the heck out of that too. Then have a think about what else could you do with such a simple and powerful technique? Holy shit, you really can change the world hey?
Each day that you do your “I wish you Happiness” with inner awareness of your own feelings, you’ll be setting yourself up for ahhaa moments of understanding about this other person. Those ahaa moments will bring you closer and closer to understanding the traumas that established their reactions, to understanding any of our own beliefs and attitudes that have been getting in the way of this person changing their behavior, to understanding our own limiting beliefs about the power that we have over this situation which is so much greater than you think.
Layer by layer, we’ll be aligned with the holyshitisthatreallytrue power of the Universe that is within us and around us, to change what’s happening with complete knowing and genuine unconditional love.