This month we did our amplified Rescue Remedy as a tool for our first aid kit that in my experience is spectacular and so easy to use when we’re under pressure. We also gained a whole new appreciation of the way our brain deals with our feelings, the beauty of both connection and DISconnection, plus we had a beautiful healing session for everyone. People’s live contributions to the Call were spectacular today – and thanks for the healing for me too!
Written version of my notes
My apologies in advance – these notes will be brief today because I can’t sit for too long at the computer. For some reason that is making my injury worse. Laughing here – well THAT’s got me out of the office for a while! And at the same time it has significantly shaped this months Live Call.
This month we’re talking about the reptilian brain and my discovery of its direct connection to the tailbone.
I’ve talked about the way that the brain works before and this is an over-simplified version that is useful for our purposes. 🙂 The front part of the brain is where we do our feelings intellectually and with thought – that’s where we first feel that early warning signal that something is Not Quite Right and take action on it.
If we don’t deal with the feelings in that front part of the brain, then they move through into the mid part of the brain where we feel the feelings more intensely. There’s different reasons why we may not deal with our feelings in this part of the brain – as children, we might not have been able to use our fear to make ourselves safe for example, or in my case, I not allowed to express my anger “Good girls don’t get angry” and being angry brought punishment. As an adult, I expect you’ll recognize that situation where you just forbid yourself to cry in front of someone and push the feelings down until later.
If we are unable to or unwilling to take the opportunity to deal with our feelings in that mid part of the brain, then they move through to the back part of the brain – the reptilian brain – and the reptilian brain’s job is to give us the opportunity to act the feelings out physically. This is where guys punch each others lights out and then are best mates again five minutes later (girls really don’t GET that do we?), it’s where you can do something PHYSICAL to work off the feelings – dance it off, run until you drop, use a punching bag, slam the door, throw the dinner at the husband (all very satisfying until you have to clean it up! 🙂 )
Then if we don’t take that opportunity to do the feelings physically, then the reptilian brain’s job is to move them along, to bury the feelings in our body, where they wait and accumulate, each big and small thing added to the next, ready to intensify the next lot of similar feelings – where they also cause physical tension in muscles, adversely effect the operation of our vital organs and eventually cause even serious illness.
Now… think about it. Each of these opportunities to “do” our feelings differently are literally a Godsend, each of them are BRILLIANT mechanisms to understand these messages from our soul and even when we don’t get those messages for whatever reason, then we have this mechanism to clear our brains for the next lot of living and then we get ANOTHER opportunity to understand the important stuff over and over again. You’ve seen examples of it on the Live Calls here – some old buried stuff isn’t important anymore because the need for the messages is long gone and some messages that ARE still important are waiting there for you to “get” them and then pffft they’re gone and pfft the physical effects of them are gone too – or at least the body is in a state of being able to heal that now.
And the way the brain moves those feelings along is nothing short of miraculous. Even the DISconnect from our feelings that is caused by the reptilian brain is seriously brilliant – we would go mad, we would literally go insane with overwhelming overloaded feelings otherwise.
So here we reach an understanding that CONNECTION and DISCONNECTION are both wonderful processes and to be embraced as such.
I wrote in that last email, about my motor bike accident where I was in a rage that caused me to be going too fast when I hit that hole that was hidden in the grass. What I have come to understand, is that if I am in a rage I am DISconnected – I can’t deal with it, I can’t control it, I can’t manage it – it’s too darned late, the disconnect has already happened and I am on auto pilot. I do not like that way of experiencing my disconnection – and THAT folks is one of my famous Aussie understatements.
So this injury gave me an opportunity to reflect on that and how I might change it. In the past the only way I had to deal with that was to constantly clean up the old feelings and the more I did that, the less likely I was to flip out into a rage. I paid more attention to my Not Quite Rights and took early action on them, so I didn’t have so many opportunities for that escalation into rage.
And that’s when I discovered the direct connection between the reptilian brain and the tail bone and I discovered how to RESET the reptilian brain, via the tail bone. We ALWAYS are going to want the reptilian brain to disconnect under certain circumstances, it’s a safety mechanism, but it doesn’t have to disconnect with rage. So I have reset my reptilian brain (and a few other people’s over the last few weeks as well).
And then I had a wonderful validation that it really did work – that my auto pilot flip out into rage has gone – when I had a big fight with my husband (which I will not go into the details of! Poor beggar I talk about our stuff as examples far too often for his comfort! 🙂 ) and during that big fight, with lots of BIIIGGG emotions flying all over the place, I was still “there”. Even though I was angry and setting boundaries very strongly – I WAS STILL THERE, still making decisions, still thinking, still there.
Wow… Can you feel how excited I am about that?
Narel is happy for me to share with you how SHE disconnects which is different to mine. She goes into what she calls “robot mode” – she manages her four children, cooks for them, cleans, she even had meetings with the insurance people after the fire at her house a few weeks ago and the whole time, there’s nobody home – she’s on auto pilot, has no memory of the conversations.
This is early days of this discovery and the possibilities are unfolding in a very exciting way in front of me and you folks get the chance to be a part of this! 🙂
How do YOU experience your disconnection? One way? Multiple ways? Some of you will have magnificently useful ways of experiencing your disconnect, some will be like me and not be so happy about it. Don’t worry if that doesn’t pop into your mind yet, we’re going to do a Quiet Mind /healing session on it today.
(Gosh some lovely examples of disconnection came up on the call – judgement of others as a disconnect, criticism of self and others as a disconnect, complaining too. Blaming as a disconnect. And doesn’t seeing it as a disconnect, help us to have compassion for others and even ourselves when we have been judging, blaming, criticizing etc? )
As we embrace the rightness of the PROCESS of disconnection, is your current way/s of doing disconnection useful to you? Is it who you want to be? Because I never have been comfortable about my tendency to flip out into rage – all this time on a spiritual path I have felt crappy about that tendency and worked to eliminate it.
The different ways to reduce the need for disconnection
1. Listening to the EARLY warning signal that something is Not Quite Right – and consistently taking action on those warnings.
2. DECIDING to understand our feelings when we notice there’s something Not Quite Right and the answer doesn’t flow in the moment, then smiling and getting on with our day, knowing that the answer will flow eventually.
3. Every ahhaa moment that we have, RELEASES the old trauma / reaction / habitual pattern, so that particular old situation no longer contributes to our disconnect pattern.
I thought that today I would gift all of you with a healing session that you can on auto pilot use any way that suits your path at the moment. You don’t need to think about this, it will just happen.
Then we did the session…
Experiment: Talk about the excitement of what I have been thinking “what can I replace my rage with as a new way of experiencing my disconnection”?
Offer reptilian brain resets in 15 minute $45 sessions for anyone who wants one privately.
We’re going to amplify the healing properties of our Rescue Remedy, so that when a crisis happens you will have some of this glorious amplified field in a bottle to take, to help with mental, emotional and physical overwhelm.
You can take it or administer it by mouth, two to five drops at a time, every minute until the overwhelm is reduced. You can also drip it on the skin and kind of spread it out, touching the skin as little as possible.
You can administer it both internally and externally for bites, stings, burns, bruises, sprains, emotional overwhelm, shock, extreme despondency and anything else you want to. 🙂
The one thing you WILL NOT USE IT FOR, IS AS A CRUTCH to avoid looking at your feelings. I used it like that once and then one day woke up with my neck stuck to the side and couldn’t even look forwards without feeling sick with the pain. I had used it to SUPPRESS my feelings and that is NOT a good deal! You use it to reduce the overwhelm and THEN do a quiet Mind and decide to understand the feelings.