Today’s Lesson – the written version
Today I wanted to talk about the opposites of Love and Fear and in particular, how our fear for our loved ones escalates them if we don’t listen to the fear’s message from our INTERNAL guidance.
I’ve listened to lots of people talking about the keys to happiness and lots of it appealed to me intellectually, but it didn’t actually bring ME happiness – because my feelings are MY OWN and they are MY Inner Guidance system on my unique journey with my unique goals. MY journey to Happiness is unique to ME – who else knows all the little pieces of my dreams and fears and feelings?
Thus our loved one’s keys to Happiness are unique TO THEM too. The change place for me may not be the change place for you, may not be the change place for your loved ones. So telling someone what they should do or feel or how they should behave, is never going to work. Well… MAYBE we might just say the words that cascade insights for someone – but it’s more likely to be INTELLECTUALLY appealing to them and not that deep all the way to your bones ahhaaa moments that we get when we’ve had an insight for ourselves. So we had better be prepared for that when we make suggestions hey?
So how DO we help our loved ones?
By BEing the change that we want to see in the world. By deciding to notice what has US feeling crappy about what they are going through, how they are behaving or what they are doing and finding OUR point of balance. That’s what is at the bottom of many spiritual practices and today I’m talking about Joe Vitali’s Ho oponopono.
Joe Vitali talks about Dr Len, a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients – without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
At first Joe thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? So he contacted him to find out the truth of the matter.
Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life – simply because it is in your life – is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
Here’s an excerpt from Joe Vitali’s book:
Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients’ files?
“I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again,” he explained.
The Ho oponopono prayer
I love you
Please forgive me
Like all positive thinking, there is a depth to this IF… IF… each stage is genuine. You can’t use it to suppress your feelings, because as we know when you suppress the feelings, they come back more intense the next time you experience that feeling because our feelings are our internal guidance system and they WILL be heard eventually. 🙂
You CAN use Ho oponopono or the principle behind it, to notice any crappy feelings about a loved one’s circumstances or for insights about someone’s crappy behavior or even the violence of global politics and decide to understand what’s behind those feelings. Then smile and get on with your day, knowing that the answer will flow sooner or later and creating regular opportunities for a Quiet Mind for the ahhaa moments which in my experience will come in whether you meditate deliberately or not.
So, can we REALLY have such an impact on someone else by “just” working on finding unconditional love for ourselves?
Why don’t we explore it today? Think about a loved one whom you wish were in better circumstances, or even someone you don’t love whose behavior or actions are dangerous or drive you crazy, and let’s DECIDE to understand what our own feelings about this are trying to tell us. Let’s find OUR OWN peacefulness and centre and expansion of understanding and see what impact (if any)
And be prepared to come back and tell us about your ahhaaa moments and what changes happened (if any) next month. 🙂
We’ll do a Quiet Mind now, to use our amplified field of our group to create an opportunity for that understanding to flow, but hey, if the answers and ahhaa moments don’t flow now, that’s OK, just smile and get on with our day, knowing that the answers will flow sooner or later and just keep your eye out for them.
Be open to noticing when what you are feeling is not yours and understanding what you need to know or do for about someone else. And at the same time, be open to noticing the Truth behind a limiting belief that is getting in your way on this issue.
Is there anyone who would like some one on one today with this or anything else?
Bach’s Rescue Remedy for next month please
I’m sorry that I didn’t tell everyone to get some Bach’s Rescue Remedy to make our boosted emergency essence that I talked about in December, but if you get some soon, we’ll have it ready for next month’s Live call. You should be able to find it easily in health stores, in Australia we can buy it in the chemist. It’s also available on line very easily too.
What we’re going to do, is to use the power of our amplified field to boost the energy of the Rescue Remedy, so that we can use it to support ourselves or others in any circumstances of overwhelm – whether that be mental, emotional or physical overwhelm. You can use it on the skin for bites and stings and burns, you can take or administer a few drops every minute or so in times of emotional overwhelm.
The key is to use it so that you can Quieten your mind and find the answers / insights/ solutions to whatever is going on. Like so many good things, it can be suppressive if you just keep taking it whenever you feel overwhelmed without looking for the real cause behind you feeling crappy.