Knowing how our connection to others really works puts a foundation beneath us as we work with people who are in difficult change places in their lives. It stops us from automatically jumping into people’s whirlpools. So let’s explore our beliefs about empathy and this whirlpool thing and find our own truth.
Remember this diagram? The people we care about, the people we’re helping, are taking steps towards their goals and dreams too. Like us, they are experiencing change places on the way to their dreams. Just like us, these changes are essential for them to “get” in order for them to create or change the things that they care about.
So what happens when we feel sorry for them in that change place and we try to “make them better” without regard to their own goals and dreams – without them getting their understanding or making that change or taking that action, whatever it is that they need to do in order to reach their dreams and change what they care about?
Ahhaaa… yes – just like us, they can bounce around in that struggling place for even longer.
Do you get how big this is? The way we help someone can really help them reach their goals and dreams – or we can actually get in their way and slow them down.
Think about how exciting it will be to be clear on “How best can I support the people I love or feel sorry for, to reach their goals and dreams?” “How best can I support their change place?”
Are you curious to know if this whirlpool metaphor is really true?
If you’re a nurturing personality and or in a caring profession and you’ve been burned out or depressed or suffering from anxiety then let’s get you out of that crap…
You can use the reiki grid with the deliberate intention to climb on out of that whirlpool. There’s no need to make it complicated – just a simple “Yes please, I’d like to climb out of that whirlpool Jenny’s talking about.” Then follow the Quiet Mind and draw on the healing. Click here for the reiki healing grid.
Make sure you drink heaps of water afterwards and rest up if you need to, because your body can be doing a lot of healing after this!
And if you still feel crappy, there’s a supported experience on the next page and you always have the option of bringing this into a live event or for the super sticky stuff see the private healing session options in the menu at the top of the page.