This Lesson is not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. But if you are a nurturing type of personality and you are tired all the time or even unwell, then this Lesson may be a godsend.
In Fast Track I have talked often about how we are affected by others’ emotions, pain or energy as part of our connectedness to all things and how that sensitivity is a beautiful thing.
There is another way in which we can experience other people’s energy, other horses’ energy, other animals’ energy, that I have decided to talk to you about – that is NOT quite so useful to us as the work we have been using so effectively in this Program.
And yes, that is one of my by now famous dry Aussie understatements.
This way of experiencing people’s energy can have distinct and adverse effects on our quality of life AND on our health AND can tremendously drain our energy AND make us seriously tired. And modern life has enough stuff to drain our energy without us adding to that!
I have this cool little story that demonstrates what I am talking about.
Written Version of the Audio
This whirlpool story demonstrates a not so useful way that we can experience other people’s energy. After this story I’ll explain how that happens in real life.
You’re walking along, minding your own business and all of a sudden, you see someone you love or someone you feel sorry for – drowning in a deep and dangerous whirlpool. They’re under the water, their mouth is under the water too often and they are in real trouble.
You’re a really strong swimmer – so, without even thinking about it, you jump in and hold them up. And that’s excellent. Now their head’s out of the water and they can breathe again – but wait…. now YOU look up at the edges of the whirlpool and wonder “How the heck am I going to get out of here?”.
You can’t hold both of you up forever. Sooner or later you’re going to run out of energy and you can’t get out of the whirlpool, so when you run out of energy you’re both going to drown.
So how might you do this differently?
The more productive action is to set yourself on the edge of the whirlpool as solid as a fence post and throw a life line and when they catch it, you are standing there really strong ready to pull with them when they start to climb out.
If the person misses the lifeline, that’s OK, you just throw it again… and again… and again if you have to… It doesn’t matter how many times you throw a lifeline you don’t want to be jumping in after them – because the minute you jump into that whirlpool, you are no longer of any use to them, because as soon as your strength runs out you both drown.
So in real life in day to day life how do you jump into someone’s whirlpool.
You jump into someone’s whirlpool when you say “Oh you poor thing I would do anything to help you”.
Yes THAT feeling… Yes you…
Well nurturing, caring people have a tendency to do this.
So in real life what can you do instead? Well when you feel that feeling, I want you to remember these words and throw yourself back from the edge of the whirlpool.
And this is what you can do instead.
When people are in trouble they don’t see their choices – they have tunnel vision. Sometimes when they’re in so much trouble they can’t even see where to take the next step.
So we throw lifelines to them by showing them what choices they have. Maybe by suggesting different choices, maybe by helping them list the choices, maybe by being a sounding board while they explore the choices.
Every choice that you put in front of them is another lifeline and they choose whether to pick up that lifeline or not.
It can be hard when someone you love, keeps choosing not to pick up your lifeline – when they ignore the choices that you put in front of them. But you have to remember, you’re not the only person in the world who can throw a lifeline, maybe it’s not your choice that’s best for their journey, in this moment.
It’s THEIR job to climb out of the whirlpool, it’s THEIR life, it’s THEIR choice and it’s THEIR happiness at stake as they climb out of that whirlpool.
And in my work as a healer over the last sixteen years the joyfulness that you see people go through when they make those choices and they win, you would never want to take that away from them.
And maybe the best lifeline of all, is simply to make conscious and deliberate good choices of our own and thus be a good example.
Now I want you to know that the physical effects of jumping into people’s whirlpools is HUGE. You can kill yourself doing this stuff.
One of my most memorable cases as a healer is a tiny Chihuahua called Sammy. He had spent four years on his dying owner’s lap and according to the vet was within days of dying himself of a tumour of the adrenal glands.
He was unable to walk. His little belly was swollen and almost touching the ground. His little tail was dragging on the ground. On that same day, after me bringing him out of that whirlpool, he walked out on his own, with his little tail curled up over his back.
I have this beautiful photo in my healing room of Sammy taken 10 weeks and quite a number of healing sessions later, getting the money for his session out of his mother’s purse – it’s a cute little trick he did. And that was the same day the vet had just done another scan and couldn’t find the tumour any more.
My point to this story is to emphasize that the physical effects of jumping into people’s whirlpools can be dangerous. So seriously folks – don’t go there.
Tomorrow, you are going to get the second part of this Lesson – which is a Quiet Mind exercise designed to get you out of that whirlpool, so that your mind, body and spirit can heal and you can get back the energy that you are supposed to have, so that you can REALLY help others!
In your next Lesson, we will do a Quiet Mind exercise that builds on today’s Lesson and is designed to get back your energy – see you in in Lesson 52!