Gosh this did not go as I planned – much more wonderful! The first part has lots of quiet time in it as Oriana stepped up to support an extraordinary healing for me. Ably supported by Katy later on too and by everyone who was Holding Space. I’m not sure how far in it is before we get to the “lesson” part. If someone lets me know, I’ll put that time up here so people can skip to it if they want.
MY WRITTEN NOTES
It’s interesting to me that the same issues that I need to talk about to people who have put their hand up for the support team, are issues that are a big deal in all of our lives too, so that’s why I’ve chosen to have these conversations here, rather than set up a different time and place for it. I think we can all benefit. J
I’ve had a series of deeper insights over the last couple of days about how the support group needs to work. And I mean NEEDS to work.
As we step into this Happiness program we become a team and like every organism if there’s a big blockage, it gets in the way of the overall well being of the organism – in this case a big blockage on the team will get in the way of the overall well being of the Happiness program itself.
I had been feeling crappy but hadn’t got to the bottom of it yet, when Narel and I were talking on Friday. Actually it wasn’t CRAPPY so much as dull and not vibrant. I wasn’t feeling as good as I normally do. The stuff that came up for both Narel and I was very expansive. I need to hand over responsibility for some things to both my husband and you ladies and one gentleman. J I’ve had a pattern of taking on too much responsibility for a long time (for all kinds of good reasons) but I’ve created a PATTERN of it.
And yet the BALANCE of that is important too. At the last Retreat the support people were unhappy to some degree at being given too much responsibility with not enough support and maybe not being clear on what was expected of them either (which is really the same thing as not enough support).
So we have to make sure THAT doesn’t happen to our Team here either – i.e. I needed to learn differently from that.
Back to my conversation with Narel for a minute. Narel said something very big and eye opening. She said that with my crazy good connection with people that can feel what other people are feeling over long distances and nail it accurately, that people expect me to be doing that all the time.
Well that just doesn’t happen and I don’t feel your stuff just because I’m with you or working with you or whatever.
If I did Feel people to that kind of degree all the time, I expect I’d go crazy with overwhelm. But I don’t block it out or protect it out either.
I only feel your stuff if there is something FOR ME to know or do about it.
So you can be angry about something, scared of something, upset about something and I won’t know about that unless there is something for me to know or do about it – UNLESS you tell me.
And I have confidence in the way The Universe gives us our own unique change places, that I WILL get it if I’m meant to and I WON”t Feel your stuff if you’re meant to attend to it yourself. Have a think about how big that is – because I don’t think everybody understands that.
Speaking up is YOUR responsibility and I will receive that speaking up with a safe pair of hands and an open heart. And if my heart is not open for every little thing – that will be MY responsibility to fix – does that make sense? And I promise you should that happen, I WILL fix it.
So… here’s some clarity for the financial stuff for the support group.
It was so hard to figure this out, because it’s not just me having to feel good about it, it’s each of you individually too. (Lets put in a reminder here about I don’t Feel your stuff unless there’s something for me to know or do about it. )
Each of you are in different circumstances and have different driving motivations for putting your hand up – some of you are quite well off and satisfied with your financial abundance, while others are excited about the opportunity to earn some more financial abundance and others might see it as an answer to a prayer. So each of you has different needs
While you‘re in training, I expect that you’ll do some work with our community members in return for the training – that’s how the energy exchange is going to work. The other alternative is to pay me for the training, but that doesn’t feel sensible to me. However we set it up, it has to be an exchange of value that feels good to BOTH SIDES. And what feels good to one may not feel good to someone else – I’m awake to that possibility, so I don’t expect you all to be the same.
Now here’s the thing… the thought of being trained in return for some work has to feel WONDERFULLY, DELIGHTFULLY, RIDICULOUSLY good. Not “just OK”. The energy of this program is waaaayyy too important for that – it has to feel REALLY GOOD to be doing that work for the energy exchange of the training. Just OK just isn’t bloody good enough. We’ll have a deliberate feel into this in a minute once you have all the rest of the information.
The minute… the MINUTE that it no longer feels exciting or some other kind of deeply satisfying feeling of really good to be working in return for the training, then YOU are responsible for alerting me that it’s time for a chat about it. It may be a chat about being paid, it may have lifted up something for you that wants attention that is unexpected– whatever, we’ll communicate and figure it out. The big deal here though is that unless The Universe gives me a Not Quite Right, unless it’s for ME to instigate the chat, I won’t know that you have some kind of stuff going on unless you tell me! Does that make sense?
And the energy of this program is so big and so important and so special that we want to be ADDING to that – like that beautiful vortex of the wetlands image – energy constantly circulating, constantly escalating and bringing more and more happiness and abundance to all of us with every escalation. And we are going to be escalating and escalating!
A while back I made up this great big list of the qualities that would make a good support person – their strengths, their passions, their attitude, their flexibility and it’s all a wank. Because the very uniqueness of all of us is exactly what will make this team perfect. The people we’re going to deal with will be unique as are we.
The one thing – the ONE thing that won’t work though, the single biggest thing that will block the energy of this program, is if you can’t or won’t speak up if you’ve got a Not Quite Right. We HAVE to communicate and I need to be able to rely on that.
And some of my favourite people in the whole world struggle with that one and I’ve struggled with it under certain circumstances myself., but this is something we have to make a serious commitment to each other about.
Next issue: AM I a safe pair of hands to speak up to?
I would like to think I am. I’ve dealt with some pretty big things where I’ve had to go away and Quiet Mind for the understanding because it didn’t flow straight away and I’m pretty good at doing that. I would have liked to say I don’t let any Not Quite Rights past me at all, but that’s not true – every now and again one slips past in circumstances where the vacuum cleaner is going with some old stuff and I didn’t hear the telephone ringing. I figure The Universe takes care of piecing that into someone else’s change place and that everything happens for a reason, so I don’t make myself or others wrong about that either.
And here’s a key to my success – every time I DON’T get the answer flowing straight away and I have to go away and Quiet Mind it, I get deeper and deeper into being Present when I look for it, my Feel gets better and clearer and life feels better and better, not matter what else is going on.
So I guess that’s why talking about this is not just for the Support Group, but useful for everyone.
Working with others
If you’re not going into the support group I think you’ll still get benefit from this. because the process is the same for dealing with your loved ones too.
You have to be able to listen to follow your good feelings and use those Not Quite Rights for understanding to work with the people you’re going to be working with, but that’s not such a big deal, because you’ll be drawn to put your hand up for someone that’s right for you to support. And you’ll be drawn to support them in all kinds of ways. And ask for help if you’re not the right support in this instance – we have so many skills in this group there will always be someone “right”.
And that’s the same with our loved ones. We are not always going to be the right person to support them when they’re going through something. We aren’t meant to solve other people’s problems, we’re meant to support them in ways that make it possible for THEM to solve their problems.
Being Heard is the biggest deal of all – being REALLY heard, with an open heart and being able to Hold Space for that person without your own Not Quite Right’s getting in the way of that. And I and the other people here have got your back if you need a hand. That’s more communication that’s necessary right there – speak up if you need a hand.
Until you feel confident, you may even send me your emails back to them. Or if that felt right, we could even share an occasional answer on our support forum, so that you can learn from each other. Actually that feels pretty vulnerable, so you’d have to be OK with that.
Allowing yourself to feel whatever feelings comes up, and taking yourself into being Present solves most issues – if not straight away, then it’s usually not too long after. And The Universe will look after us. J
So it seems that our key to success here is that communication is VERY important in our team, hey?
The money when it comes time to pay, will be unashamedly different for everyone, depending on your skills, experience, level of supervision. The one thing it WILL be is generous. And it will feel good and feel abundant because that’s the whole deal right there isn’t it? This whole thing is about feeling good and being and feeling abundant.
I know many of you think you’re not good enough to be on the support group, but, like your horsemanship, that feeling of not being good enough only comes from trying to do it like me or like someone else that you admire. It’s OK to use us as inspiration but utterly NOT OK to try and do your connection to others, being Present, supporting others, whatever – trying to do it like me.
So for those who are thinking about joining the Support Team, have a feel into that now. There’ll be more to talk about in the future I’m sure, but you should have some kind of guide into your feelings around it now. Does anyone have any Not Quite Rights to look at now? Feel free to contact me later too.
After the call – tomorrow maybe, I will put together a healing / session circle so that everyone gets to give and receive a session and we’ll rotate practising on each other until the program starts.
Next up, a session for me please.
I suspect that I may have fractured a bone in my hand / wrist from a fall off my own feet yesterday and I have a sore painful knee and I’d like to go to the beach today on my husband’s only day off this week, so you’re all going to get to have a practise on me.
My fingers bend, but feel kind of numb and sticky to bend. Bending my thumb too far hurts. The whole hand and wrist and forearm is only a bit swollen today, but I’ve had a slightly rough night because there’s some movement that’s quite painful. I can take a bit of weight with it but not to much – I can’t get my phone out of my pocket. I can turn my wrist to some degree, but certain movements hurt a lot. I can clench my fingers today, so long as I don’t bring the thumb into it, but couldn’t do that last night without hurting.
I know from firsthand experience that even broken bones can be healed almost instantly when we get the understanding behind the injury and unleash the healing power within us – the healing power of The Universe. You can use YOUR Reiki too if that feels good – but only if it feels good. J
So have a feel into it and who’s drawn to go first this time? If someone else is talking and you get something to share, then either open up your microphone by pressing star or put your hand up.