“Facing your fear and doing it anyway is a great way to increase your layers of stress and tension, stuff up your riding seat, make yourself sick and risk getting hurt.”
Emma in the USA got rid of her anxiety so it just didn’t exist any more instead. She said:
“OMG?! I didn’t have any anxiety! Just fun! WHAT?!” And I HELPED the horse with her anxiety. Previously I’ve always needed a super quiet horse to help ME with MY anxiety.”
That’s her in the photo, captured riding that mare on that ride, moseying along after helping the mare with her anxiety.
Facing your fear and doing it anyway is what people say when they’re confusing excitement and fear. They both run from the adrenal glands and when we didn’t know how to deal with our fear, when that’s caused us to ignore and then bury it, fear and excitement kind of collapse together and are hard to tell apart.
Why we’re so successful is because we teach people to listen to, understand and then use their fear and anxiety to not only BE safe but to FEEL safe. One of my greatest thrills is supporting someone for their first noticing the feel of their excitement. Ahhh the joy and wonder of that. It changes everything.
Emma’s been through that process, knows how to listen to her early warning signal that something is Not Quite Right and take action on it to keep herself safe. She’s clear on what excitement feels like and has found the joy in that with a previously very VERY difficult horse who had suffered tremendously under humans and had no desire to be anywhere near them at all. We’ll bring you that story another day – it’s a heart warming lulu.
Her confidence is what she’s talking about today though. She said:
“I have done a LOT of online “rider confidence” programs. You name it, I’ve probably done it. They got me some mild improvement for a short period of time, but never really addressed the underlying anxiety so it would always creep back in. And they were always hard work.
During a FastTrack exercise, Jenny got to the root of my anxiety and it shifted. A few weeks later I was able to ride my friend’s brand new horse, that I didn’t know, that was anxious, on a trail I was not familiar with, and there were leaf blowers and a scary creek! And it was AWESOME.
It felt so natural to me that it was only until afterwards that I was like “OMG?! I didn’t have any anxiety! Just fun! WHAT?!” And I HELPED the horse with her anxiety. Previously I’ve always needed a super quiet horse to help ME with MY anxiety. Highly recommend. This is just one of the many things I’ve gotten from Fast Track and working with Jenny ❤”
When we’re scared we think there’s something wrong with us and nothing could be further from the truth.
See… when we’re scared we think there’s something wrong with us and nothing could be further from the truth. We’re smart to be scared. The horse riding accident stats are horrendous and not knowing how to listen to our Feel and our horses is the simple reason and it’s soooo…., changeable.
It all changes when we use our fear anxiety and nerves the way they were designed – to BE and FEEL safe.
Here we understand the fear, take action on it and “pfft!” that’s the sound of how fast it disappears when we use it to make ourselves AND OUR HORSE be and feel safe. I must have done this thousands of times with all sorts of people in all sorts of fear and even terror and PTSD and I PROMISE you that anxiety releases easily once you understand where it’s coming from and what action to take on it. “pfft”
In our next FREE live seminar 7am Monday 3rd November Melbourne time, we’ll be doing all kinds of things that will effortlessly boost people’s confidence. Come and see how easy it can be.
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