I’ve just come back from doing a healing session on a young mum. She has two children under three. She nursed her Mum at home with cancer and lost her just on a year ago and her beloved old horse died just weeks ago. She’s tired, stressed, hormonal and emotional.
How many of you know this picture?
We women specially – I know this includes some men too, but we women specially – put others first and way too often we have a tendency to feel guilty if we put ourselves first. This is not useful to ourselves and not useful either to the people that we care for.
If we do not look after ourselves first, then there is no one to look after the rest of the family – two and four legged.
What makes us luckier than the rest of the women in the world is that we have horses.
And what makes us luckier than the rest of the women in the horse world is that we know HOW to deliberately and actively pursue happiness with our horse.
And this happiness, this way of dealing with horses and life will relieve the stress, reduce the blood pressure, balance the hormones and energise our very beings – just like it did for that young mum this afternoon.
The physical effects of stress relief are enormous and well documented. The relief was just about instant as she walked into the paddock listening inside herself.
She didn’t need me – she needed time with her horse!
When we “do” horses the way WE do horses – listening to them and to ourselves and taking action to have all of us feel safe – when we “do” horses to deliberately pursue happiness for us both like those who work with me do – then we have the ultimate in stress relief. (That is a clumsy sentence but you get the drift…)
In fact, not only do we have the stress relief that comes from listening inside ourselves routinely with our horse and not only do we receive the beautiful healing energy from our horse – as a fringe benefit, we also develop some life skills in dealing with other life “stuff” powerfully too.
So here is a little tick sheet to treat yourself better today and tomorrow and the next day and the next.
Spend some down time with your horse, doing nothing except being with them with a quiet mind, as often as you can.
The Quiet Mind exercise came a little while after The 9 Keys to Happiness with Your Horse. If you can’t find that lesson email me and I will give it to you again.
If you cannot get to your horse every day, spend a few minutes of quiet mind time connecting with them every day anyway as per The First Key to Happiness with Your Horse.
If you cannot get to your horse every day, then do something else pleasurable EVERY day.
Breathe deeply through the nose often – that deep through the nose breathing that you hear me doing in the quiet mind exercises in your lessons. And notice how your body feels when you do that.
Come on, do it now while you are reading this.
Find a horse buddy to share all the wonderful stuff you are doing with your horses. Brag a lot and celebrate every progress and wonderful feeling.
Learn to say no to anything that means not enough horse time.
Commit to yourself to listen to and take action on your early warning signal that something is Not Quite Right – in and out of horses and you will immediately and powerfully feel less stressed, less tired and less hormonal.
Go get ‘em ladies and enjoy those horses!
And if you are a bloke reading this, then bless you – look after yourself first and then go find your woman and make sure she is looking after herself too.
This blog was prompted by an article that I read today from Dr Christiane Northrup which came from the organisation Hungry for Change . Google them – an excellent mob!
And if you haven’t had the 9 Keys yet, you’ll find the link right up the top of our Training Programs page