Smack in the middle of editing this page, when I was looking to bring the magic of a session to it, I had one of my children do something that I thought was really – I’m ‘fessing up here – that I thought was really dumb. Something that I thought was going to cause repercussions totally opposite to what he wanted.
When we care about someone who is ill or in depression or in some terrible situation, our inner guidance system gives us the best answer automatically – it takes into consideration the other person’s uniqueness, our own unique abilities / talents / knowledge and the uniqueness of the situation itself.
Provided we actually listen to it, not go off half cocked like I started to before I shifted attention to being curious about what I was feeling and thinking. The sheer relief I felt when curiosity opened up the pathway to understanding all that was going on here. It means that I can influence change rather than escalate the problem.
After … what is it seven or eight?… examples of dropping slowly into your inner guidance with a smile and then curiosity about the feelings that come up, it probably won’t take so long any more.
If the answer doesn’t flow in the moment, then you can use this slight variation of the familiar experience to listen to your inner guidance, that will take under 30 seconds to change your life and the world around you.
- Sink into feeling your outward breath and smile.
- Then think about this loved one and still with those soft smiling eyes, get curious about how best you can support them.
- Notice and get curious about any feelings that come up – any physical sensations, any energy flowing or stuck, any emotions, any thoughts and ideas – just observing them and curious about anything that comes up.
- Then smile again and get on with your day knowing that the understanding and the answer, including any action that you need to take, will flow when you’re ready.
Whether these simple exercises suit your way of doing things or not, the one thing we can do that is so incredibly powerful and is common to every situation, is for us to get the message of and clean up our crappy feelings around this situation that the other person is in. Once we understand our own feelings, then we’re in a position of open-hearted feeling good ourselves, to hold the safe feeling space for them to find that too.
We’re all One, so whether they’re in overwhelm and aware of it or not, they can feel what we’re being.
Are you curious to know if that’s really true?
Photo: Our animals are so good at helping us understand all these non verbal ways of communicating and feeling. This is our herd leader Boots, back when he was very young and the herd was teaching him the wisdom he’d need to be the wise leader that he became.
