
Here’s our wonderful diagram that explains struggling as it relates to Heart Feel. Here I am now. Over there is that thing that I care about creating or changing and there’s that big change place again, that thing that has to change in order to create what I care about.
If Heart Feel is part of my natural talent, then I can use that feeling of unconditional love and the other side, the judgement and blame, the anguish and despair as the wonderful guidance that it is. Or I can be stuck in that change place, going round and round in circles and not creating the very thing that I so passionately want to create or change.
Does this mean that anguish, despair and judgment are just messages too?
Yep. Can you see me nodding?
Just like the other ways of feeling, Heart Feel has its subtleties and its overwhelm. It’s not the overwhelm of anguish or despair that’s the problem – those feelings are just the message – it’s being stuck in the overwhelm that causes us problems and stops us from creating what we most care about. It’s the stuckness that slows us down from creating change around this very thing that is causing us anguish.
I know – how big is that?
It’s not the evaluation of our initial judgement, it’s the stuckness in judgement and the blame that stems from that, that stops us from seeing what’s really going on here that also stops us from changing what we most care about.
I know, that’s just as big hey?
And the “pffft” thing – the sound of anguish and despair and judgment and blame disappearing – that too is just as applicable here as it is in the other ways of feeling and I look forward to smiling together in a live event about that one day!.