My life is filled with beautiful moments and the look of wonder on Sue’s face when she joined us after her ride with Pan the other day, was one of them.
You may have seen the Wild Heart For Sale ad here on my website, for Sue’s horse Pan.
Working through her own issues on Magic the vaulting horse in the hay shed over the last month or so, Sue had realised that what she wanted above all else was a deep sense of safety with her horse – and at that time, neither she nor Pan thought that they could give each other that. Sue wanted that deep sense of safety and Pan wanted a bolder rider. So that’s where the Wild Heart For Sale came from.
I strongly believe that when a relationship with a horse is breaking down, that together or apart, we need to complete that relationship and resolve our feelings about that, until we are in a place of peacefulness and looking forward to moving on. That way we don’t take our “problems” to our next horse relationship.
Does anybody get the parallels to human partner break downs here?
We’ve all seen it, haven’t we? The exaggeration of this is someone who keeps buying new horses and has exactly the same problems with them – horse after horse. You won’t get any judgement from me on this issue, as I used to spend my life repeating the same “mistakes” – doing the same things the same way and expecting them to turn out different. Which by the way is the definition of insanity in some circles. Laughing quietly at myself here…
Anyway, I encouraged Sue to continue working with the feelings brought up by Pan, the messages of the feelings brought up by Pan, while strongly focusing on that deep sense of safety that she recognised that she wanted, when she was on Magic.
– knowing that keeping that focus on what she desired so hugely would help her work out whatever she and Pan needed and that deep sense of safety would then be the outcome no matter which horse partner she moves forward with.
And I expected that would result in a new understanding that would either re-bond them better than before, in the context of the deep sense of safety that Sue is creating – or enable them to release each other peacefully. I have to confess though, I couldn’t help holding a secret wish for the re-bonding.
If you know someone who is considering selling their horse, then I am happy to chat about how they can find their place of peacefulness for both themselves and their horse to either re-bond better than before or move on peacefully. Email me jennyATjennypearce.com.au
Anyway, it’s better to read what Sue has written herself, on her own blog by clicking here.
For those reading this who are on the Fast Track to Brilliant Riding, the riding with the feel of your whole body that Sue is talking about on her blog is the beautiful reality and results of Lesson 73 applied on the ground as she prepared to ride and again in the saddle. She is talking about a key to success – noticing her breath when it couldn’t quite flow with ease, as an indication of a blockage that needs melting off of. And that released new layers of smaller tensions in both of them.
Thanks Sue for sharing this.