Every … single … bit … of fear we experience is a guidance to the past, the present or the future and when we use it as the guidance it IS, well… a calm quiet oasis of peacefulness is the least you’ll be able to find – at ANY time of the year.
I’ve had one of those enormous heart opening insights this morning. This year has been full of them and the last two months has been just about non stop.
Hold the upcoming thought about the crazy lady until I’ve finished talking. 🙂
Fear is so special. It is SUCH a blessing.
Yeah that’s what I said, hold the crazy lady thought for a bit.
Without it, I’d walk too close to that crumbling cliff edge or step out in front of that bus without looking; I’d do something with my horse that she wasn’t ready for and one or the other of us would get tight or tense and have that tension as the foundation of our relationship – or maybe I’d even get hurt. Without all the subtle nuances of fear, I’d miss the opportunity to expand our relationship by listening to / feeling her.
And if I HADN’T experienced that anxiety yesterday, if I HADNT gone hunting for the cause and found it (thanks Caroline and Sue for the support!) I would have missed this opportunity to draw you into the quiet, calming and peaceful oasis that your horse can be today.
Sometimes these nuances of fear are so familiar that we don’t even realize how much they get in the way of what we really want to experience. In fact, some of these nuances of fear are so familiar that we can even forget why we wanted to be with a horse in the first place.
There’s this little wild caught brumby called Joe, 400 kms away near Albury, that is prompting so much of my thoughts around how wonderful fear is at the moment. I’ve been invited to present at a big international horse expo and he’s the horse that I found when I advertised for a troubled horse to film a lesson with for the expo.
He was so scared that he had never voluntarily touched a human – well, not before that day anyway. If he was boxed into a corner, he would submit to being caught, but he’d literally shake the whole time he was having his feet trimmed or whatever.
Filming day – it was about 7 minutes after getting into the paddock when Dawn made HER breakthrough into bubbling with happiness. It took her 7 minutes to go from anxiety and tension to bubbling with happiness and she did that by using her fear as the guidance it was, the BLESSING it is, that makes it possible for her to keep herself and Joe BEing and FEELing safe.
And with THAT leadership – this little horse made HIS breakthrough into happiness in just under an hour.
In just under one hour, he reached out and touched her – reached out and touched a human voluntarily for the very first time in his life – and he bubbled with happiness doing it.
It doesn’t happen by just wishing it to happen either. It takes making changes. Horses know us so deeply – it took Joe feeling Dawn’s mental and emotional commitment to the new ways of dealing with him and then he could start stepping out from behind his own fear.
This bubbling with happiness is now Dawn and Joe’s foundation for their relationship together and it came from the blessing of fear.
For me this morning my fear has brought me to a comfort zone of peacefulness, with a calm confidence that all is well in my world – ahhh the blessing that is fear…
Our ability to find a calm peaceful oasis when we want to and a support for each other that’s like a warm hug across distance – and to be able to do that no matter what’s going on in our lives – started with these horse lessons.