Later edit: What we discovered about what horses perceived as conflict between horses and their riders in this clinic, led us to an ability to resolve conflict differently between humans too.
Can you imagine the value that has for relationships? For business? Being able to teach people the ability to resolve conflict without compromising their values? And I’m talking about REAL conflict resolution here, not bullshit compromise where everyone’s left feeling like they had to give up something. Can you imagine the impact on organizational teamwork? Can you imagine the impact on customer relations? Can you imagine the impact on public relations? See The Einstein Factor for how this is just ONE of the exciting possibilities we bring to business.
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How do I describe the magic of what we learned in this Heal Your Horse’s Back clinic? It’s sooo… BIG.
We learned how to deal with conflict with confidence, with what we’re calling The Third Way. We learned how that translated into a new open-ness in our bodies that directly translated to a new open-ness in the horse’s bodies.
Pause and have a feel into what that’s going to mean for healing of horses and riders both!
Our willingness to do conflict differently, to meet a horse’s “can’t, won’t, don’t want to”, to meet any resistance from this new place of OUR OWN openness, brought us to understand the horse differently. THAT’s the key to The Third Way.
And that led to experiencing and understanding collection differently – real collection – soft and easy and joyous collection that starts from a horse already in self carriage, in a way that I am absolutely sure would have the old classical dressage masters smiling with approval.
And doing it oh so easily…
THIS is the stuff that our dreams with our horses are made of.
My hat goes off to Sandra and Joyce and Mel, for their willingness to be so open and share their lessons with everyone on the clinic, for the head shaking progress that each of them made because of that openness and for the beautiful progress that they made with their horses. Each of these wonderful ladies had a very individual journey of unfolding and discovery during the clinic, although we had a central theme weaving its way through.
Mel has made such personal transformation in understanding her own incredible natural talent of connection to horses and in that space she has transformed Pye’s life too. Mel does horse rescue work and rescued Pye a while back. She started off with Pye wanting to attack her and ended her clinic with both of them laying down together, mirroring each other in confidence and connection. That video brought tears to my eyes – I must ask her if it’s OK to share it with our wider community here. (Later addition – see the link below…)
Joyce started with her much loved but retired 18 year old horse Safar, who had a badly damaged back and thanks to her wonderful willingness to share some deeply personal stuff, triggered a cascade of insights for all of us that was such an integral part of the clinics success. Safar has found a new lease on life, noticeable improvement in his back and a new youthfulness even though it’s deep winter in the U.S. We look forward to seeing his progress when we get together again in a months time to review progress.
And Sandra – Sandra and Milly – bless both of you to bits. Sandra brought Milly to this clinic because Milly was suffering from a series of deadly colic attacks over months – that culminated with the vet wanting to put her down. In a healing session that I did with Milly by distance during a colic attack, I had identified they were triggered by her spinal bones not being in quite the right place. This often happens, as there are some vertebrae that are directly linked to the stomach and other bones to the small and large intestines, so that when there is tension around the bones, there is tension around the organs, which can often cause recurring, unexplained colicking.
Clearing up Milly’s spinal problems involved understanding a whole new way to ask for collection – not from the mouth or by softening the jaw or poll or driving from behind, but from lifting up the withers and hey I reckon you guessed it – you cannot FORCE a horse to lift up their withers. They do it from mirroring the genuine and soft and joyous opening in the rider. Beautiful stuff.
And lifting up the withers and stretching and helping the horse to release their stuck spots and resistances and even their spinal problems, along with whatever else is in the way, makes it possible for the beginnings of collection to be a very healing thing to do with a horse.
Pause and have a feel into the bigness of that!
Your staff here and the fence sitters had a big contribution too. From Caroline we learned a new depth of welcoming and even embracing mistakes as the wonderful opportunities for positive change that they are and then we took that into conflict as well – recognizing that conflict – when we know how to deal with it – has beautiful seeds for change.
I had been a person who avoids conflict like the plague and yet now I am quietly and confidently open to The Third Way that makes conflict a positive experience. With our horses, this means that each conflict between what the horse wants or what they can or can’t do – and what we want and what we can or can’t do – becomes a lovely opportunity for the next step of beautiful progress together.
This … THIS is why I wanted a horse all those years ago.
And yet all of this wonderful wonderful stuff was grounded in the practical results of Pye finding a new confidence in Mel, Pye experiencing the most gobsmacking healing of a horse’s back, Mel finding a new confidence in her own unique and wonderful ability, Joyce and Safar both getting younger and more flexible and confident in a new way of looking at things, Milly’s back healing under our eyes, Sandra’s break through into All That Is and me – MY life will never be the same either.
Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou all of you. And bless you from the bottom of my heart…
Here’s the blog I wrote about The Healing of Pye Well done Mel – the transformation is priceless.
It is no exaggeration…. this clinic was STAGGERING !!!!
Four weeks of incredible insights and learning that just kept flowing one on top of the other, from everyone involved…. and what a bunch of amazing women (and a very special man :)) you all are.
I have spent almost two weeks quietly processing and anchoring the deeper insights from all that you brought to this clinic, and just like waiting for our horse to process… “the longer it takes, the bigger the thing is that is being processed”…… well that’s how it is for me right now.
The BIGNESS of the countless layers that have been revealed to us is phenomenal, and so it’s no coincidence that we all now find ourselves processing and allowing the layers to land for each of us personally.
I have been overjoyed seeing and hearing about the wonderful and individual insights for each of your horses to help them heal their backs, but also with the most incredible expansion into other areas too.
It was such a privilege to be a part of this with you all, and have been having some wonderful moments of healing with my own horses too as a result. Thank you all, and I look forward to the next clinic.
I agree with you Caroline. Every time I think I’ve got a handle on everything to come from that clinic – another layer cascades in. Yesterday I rode Bobby in another completely new space AGAIN… We’re getting more and more together. I feel like I have SUCH a clear path to resolve anything now, that every hiccup, every little problem is a blessing…
I have found this clinic to be a little overwhelming. There have been so many insights that I have had some difficulty processing them all. It has advanced my relationship with Safar and I am most grateful. We are both benefiting from the Bowen moves. His top line is not what I would like, yet, but he is starting to muscle up over his rump. There are more changes to come and I am looking forward to what the future will bring both of us.
I too am still processing all that we discovered and learned and integrating it into my life. I am finding a new ease at dealing with conflict that is already creating wonders – both with horses and in life generally. I love working like this, unfolding more and more wonderful stuff and sharing that with others. You were the one who opened up that magic box for me Joyce, so thankyou thankyou thankyou!
what a beautiful video of mel and pye – so much processing and understanding from pye and what gorgeous synchronicity!
love it
You’ve hit the nail on the head Joanna – I think the synchronicity is a visible display of their deeper connection… What an example of advanced Mirror Game!
woweeee! you are really in the flow, jenny, your projects sound great and i’m thrilled to be part of it remotely, all the way from france. my mare and i are developing a whole new way of being together with the wait and the release and relearn technique.
best,
j
Thanks! I am glad that you are enjoying Fast Track Joanna. 🙂
Wow Jenny! What a privilege to be a part of this amazing clinic! I will be processing and absorbing for a long time to come. At this point, the highlight for me personally was reaching a whole new level of feel, from a distance. Other important moments were being able to witness the phenomenal learning and growth of the participants and to be a part of the expanded energy on the calls.
Overall it was a magical experience. Thank you for such an exciting clinic!
xx Holly
Me too… I too will be absorbing this one for a while I think. Practicing this new way of dealing with every level of conflict until it is auto pilot is going to be the big deal for me I think. I have had non stop (well more than usual! 🙂 ) opportunities to put The Third Way into action since the end of the clinic. Funny coincidence that! Where I have deliberately looked for The Third Way, the outcomes have been outstanding – but I did forget to do it a couple of times yesterday and got not such good feeling results. 🙁 I am really still smiling here though. The contrast in results between the old way and the new way of doing things is in itself an opportunity to notice how special this all is…
And thank you, sunshine. Your support and your personal commitment as part of our staff here is very much valued. I have immense gratitude for all three of you. Thank you…
It really is simply staggering the personal impact of working with a group a people who fearlessly reveal their vulnerabilities and inner souls in an “amplified field” of non-judgmental caring, supportiveness and complete acceptance. In many unexpected ways, perhaps it’s “easier” to do this type of training online rather than in an actual, real clinic? The leap in knowledge, understanding and soul expansion was pretty darn phenomenal. AND I WAS JUST A FRIGIN’ FENCE SITTER!!!!!
Your comment Corey my dear, about “is it EASIER to make this kind of progress on line?” is a wonderful compliment! Thanks! Who would have thought it?! Waayyy back, when I first started working like this, who would ever have thought that working by distance COULD produce such wonderful practical results between horse and rider? Remember those early calls in the Through the Grace of Your Horse group? When I first started being able to feel the rider’s position from the other side of the world? It sounds like such an outrageously impossible thing – but it’s just an extension of what everyday people do with their horses all the time. The only difference between me and all the other people who have a strong element of physical feel in their unique mixture of “feels” is that I work VERY hard to keep my outside noise to a minimum, so that I can really feel my inner guidance. One of our riders once expressed it like “you can’t hear the telephone ringing through the sound of the vacuum cleaner”. Because of what I do here, I do my best to keep the vacuum cleaner off when I am expecting a phone call! 🙂 🙂 Actually I Like the feel of a clean house so I tend to get my vacuuming done ASAP! 🙂 🙂
Actually, the same leaps of progress happen in the “in person” clinics – the same kind of openness, the same kind of lack of judgement, the same wonderful synergy for positive change wherever people are coming from and whatever they want to work on. It just seems that each clinic, whether on line or in person, leap frogs the one before. Is that because we get more and more centered every time we work together?
Actually, I think that Caroline and Narel and Holly deserve a lot more credit than most of you are aware of. They have been working behind the scenes with me, with SUCH a strong and constant synergy with each other for quite a long time now. Every one of us working on being in as clear a space as possible individually and supporting each other as a group. It means that the synergy of such incredibly beautiful, powerful women holding space for each other, anchoring each others’ personal growth – the power for positive change within that is just phenomenal. And too, the effect of that now well practiced group, on a clinic like this is just beautiful – an amplified field indeed.
Your personal and enthusiastic support has also been much valued Corey. Such enthusiasm and appreciation for what we do, adds to that lovely synergy and drives us on the bigger and better things. Thanks!
It’s been a wonderful 4 weeks Jenny, you’ve helped me see what I had inside all along and how to bring it to the fore. I’ve been using what you’ve taught not only on Pye, but on all of my horses and those in my care, 9 in all at the moment. All of the horses have renewed their trust in me and are allowing me to feel their inner selves even more. The results are amazing.
Big Thank You!
Mel
x
You blew me away Mel – well done you and Pye both!
well Jenny – where do I start from the three horses, who have all shown such amazing improvement in movement and attitude to the people who were prepared to share so much, my brain is not finished with it yet, there is a lot more understanding to filter through its grey matter! I feel it is the tip of an iceberg that we have ventured onto,with so much more to learn along the same pathway. It shows how important it is for people to be open to everything that is put in front of them and to consider all aspects of everything, even things that dont seem to be real!
Ain’t THAT the truth Mary! I am going to be processing this lot for a while I think. I have certainly been making progress non stop since the clinic finished. Man I LOVE this work! 🙂
can’t wait to hear more!
Here’s hoping to the flow of energy for tomorrow mornings article! 🙂
Beautiful work everyone! And thanks for sharing the experience Jenny. 🙂
🙂 In haste – A big day out today – and much love to you in your traveling. See you again at Easter. Maybe you’ll be here for the clinic! THAT would be awesome!
I Love this BLOG Jen. You are all amazing
Well THEY are all amazing! 🙂 🙂