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A granddaughter’s Happiness story

Human health, Student Spotlight · January 11, 2015

Happiness story

I was telling a friend of mine this story and she was so powerfully affected by it, that she wanted to know if I had written about it on my blog.  I hadn’t shared it because it’s not a horse story.

But she’s right, it HAS an application to horses that we will talk about on another day.  So I decided to share this simple story about my gift to my grand daughter on her birthday.

I had noticed quite a while back, that I didn’t remember very many gifts that I had been given in my life – that I mostly remembered the experiences and that kind of tied in around the same time that I was noticing that the amount of gifts my grand daughter received on birthday and Christmas from such a big extended family, was overwhelming.

She couldn’t have told you what gifts she got, there was so many of them and without prompting she certainly wouldn’t have remembered who they came from.  So by the time this story happened, we had already changed our gifts from “things” to experiences.  We had already done the wonderful free range open zoo at Werribbee, the stunning horse show Cavalia, the live How to Train a Dragon show and things like it and by this  birthday I’m talking about, I was running out of ideas.

Then along came Deepak Chopra with his Happiness meditation series with Oprah Winfrey – thank you to the person who put me onto them, it was very special and very powerful for more than me, as you’ll see.  You can Google Deepak Chopra’s website, he often has a free series going and they are all special.

Anyway I decided that the greatest gift I could give her right now, that would last for the rest of her life, was to teach her what real  happiness was.

Man, I am going to cry while I am writing this, I can tell! 🙂

So, the afternoon of her ninth birthday,  I picked her up from school and we went out for a special afternoon tea, just us.

And I asked her what would make her happy, what would bring her happiness that her Grandad and I could give her for birthday?  We talked about how whatever ideas she came up with for this birthday present,  it would be our job to do our best to either give that to her or create an opportunity for whatever she wanted to happen or teach her how to get it to happen.

We talked about how the happiness that a toy would bring could be quite short term, that at my age I couldn’t even remember very many toys that I was given.  We explored the idea of how making others happy can bring us lasting happiness.

One by one. this precious, precious girl started to make her very considered birthday wishes.

She wanted to spend more time with her older brother who lived away from home.  She wanted a joke book that would make her Daddy laugh (he tends on the grumpy side).  She wanted a vegetable garden that she could eat things out of, she wanted a particular flower in her garden (and that reminds me,  I haven’t got around to that one yet, I must find one.)  And last but not least, she wanted her best friend to be not afraid of food.  (Her best friend only eats a few things and I hadn’t thought of it like that, but I expect my girl is right and there is probably a fear in there somewhere.)

We talked about how Grandad and I could help her with those things.  She herself did a birthday card that she gave her best friend (even though it was her own birthday) giving the other girl the gift of a healing session with me to solve the food thing.   I found a Men’s Shed joke book on my travels that had the right style of jokes in it that made her Daddy laugh.  Her mother made extra effort above what she was already doing, knowing that she wanted more time with her brother.  We planted a mini garden with sweet snap sugar peas and baby tomatoes and a couple of strawberry plants.

You see… the advertising people would have us think that happiness comes from buying that new gadget, driving that car, living on that particular block of land – even things like buying that brand of fabric softener (you know, the one with the mother and baby and the cuddly towels).  But none of these things bring real Happiness – they’re temporary and sometimes they even bring their own stresses if we haven’t paid for them yet.

Real happiness comes from understanding how life works, from understanding our connection to everything and everybody else in the world and like my girl discovered, from making others happy.

And the more we do that, the more it makes the world a better place and the more happiness starts flowing around and around.

Something very special happened that day of my granddaughter’s birthday that still brings a tear of gratitude in me.  My precious girl started to think about real happiness and how she could have real happiness and about what would bring her real happiness.

And she nailed it.  And yes, bless her heart, I cried writing this story.  Even doing a little edit years later for the 2018 Happiness program, I STILL cried writing it. 🙂

2021:  There’s a book coming called Practical Happiness for Animal Lovers.    Sign up for the blog (up towards the top of the page on the right hand side) and you’ll get an email when it hits the ground. 🙂

 

 

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  1. Madeleine Innocent says

    January 12, 2021 at 7:03 pm

    The experience idea is sooooo much nicer. I recall my experiences, not the physical presents, even though they were scarce. One lady took her children swimming with wild dolphins one christmas, in lieu of presents. Another year, swimming with wild seals. They help draw out the natural personality instead of masking it with things.

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    • jennyp says

      January 12, 2021 at 8:16 pm

      Gosh those ideas sound utterly wonderful Madeleine! And I hadn’t thought of “masking the natural personality with things”, but you’re right…

      Reply
  2. Jan Hair says

    March 2, 2018 at 11:42 am

    I remember reading this story when you first posted it. Two & a bit years later it is still a gorgeous story. I am wondering how your grand-daughter’s friend is doing with her food fear.

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    • jennyp says

      March 2, 2018 at 4:11 pm

      Her mother never did bring her for that healing session. However, the Universe intervened and err maybe a year ago? she got an excruciatingly painful bad back that wasn’t resolving despite big deal pain killers and even hospitalization. We fixed it in one session and for no charge because it was Bree’s birthday gift from back then. I don’t know if the food thing has improved since then, I haven’t thought to ask. 🙂 I will do next time I catch up with them. 🙂

      Reply
  3. Clara Sharp says

    February 18, 2015 at 5:34 am

    Hi Jenny,
    What a beautiful idea. To discuss happiness and what it means to your granddaughter and for her to discover it’s deeper meaning and how significant it is to find it in making others happy is truly a gift.
    Thank you for sharing your grand daughter’s gift…it is a wonderful gift to us as well.

    Reply
    • jennya says

      February 18, 2015 at 5:57 am

      Lovely to hear from you Clara! It’s funny to think that here we are in our much cooler than normal summer and there you are in minus 20 degrees or worse!

      Reply
  4. binty ballantyne says

    January 12, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    and I cried. Beautiful.

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    • jennya says

      January 13, 2015 at 8:05 am

      What does this story about my granddaughter and the tears as it moves us – what does it mean for US do you think? Just like I asked her, I am asking myself today – what do I want that would make me really long term happy? What gift will I remember when I’m old and laying on my last bed?

      Reply
  5. Corey says

    January 12, 2015 at 7:17 am

    Well, da drought may end soon with the crying this will bring on! What thrills me no end is that there is obviously another future healer in the family to carry the magical torch her Nana has lit.
    Loved this (in case ya couldn’t tell…….)

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    • jennya says

      January 12, 2015 at 9:10 am

      Well I don’t know about that Corey, but she sure is a special kid! But hey… aren’t all of them when we show them the way? Na… MY grand daughter is more special than anyone else!!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

      Reply
  6. Caroline in Portugal says

    January 12, 2015 at 5:46 am

    What a beautiful story to share with us.. thank you 🙂

    Your grand daughter is a very lucky little girl to have a Nana like you, and I agree, we are also very lucky to have learnt this in our lifetime 🙂

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    • jennya says

      January 12, 2015 at 9:19 am

      Yeah well… the luck is a two way street Caroline. I remember when she was born and her Daddy had taken a week off work and I didn’t want to get in the way of the incredible bonding that can take place at that time within a new family. But I soooo… wanted to feel that beautiful baby. So every day, my son John and I would drive over to Mel’s, elbow each other out of the way as we rushed down the driveway, to be the first inside and the first to get to pick up the baby. Mel allowed us to pick her up even if she was sleeping, bless her. We’re both reiki channels, John a Level 1 and me a reiki master practitioner, so holding her and pouring the lovingness of the reiki healing into her as well as our love for her was really special too. Anyway, we’d hold her for five minutes each and then leave. The bond between us has always been very strong because of that time I think. And it’s been VERY strong with her Uncle John too. Another new Nanna I know who couldn’t be with her new grandchild, rang over the phone every single day and the mum held the phone up to the often sleeping baby and she talked to her grandchild for a few minutes every day. They too had an incredible bond when they actually met, that continued on throughout life. How special grand kids are! All the wonderful stuff without being weighed down by the responsibility and the sleeplessness and all the other things that go with raising kids! And all the wisdom to share with them that I sure as heck didn’t have when I was back being a Mum myself!

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  7. Joyce says

    January 11, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    As I have been journeying back and forth in my life’s history, I have one lasting regret that my parents did not teach me the “joy of others”. Not only is your grand daughter learning about what makes her happy, but she is learning that that happiness can not be separated from joy of lifting up others happiness.

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    • jennya says

      January 11, 2015 at 11:26 pm

      Too right Joyce… Hey babe, we’re the lucky ones, hey? We’ve learned it in this lifetime! 🙂

      Reply
  8. Tammy Nicholas says

    January 11, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    What a gorgeous story Jen, and how truly lovely is that special little girl.

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    • jennya says

      January 11, 2015 at 10:13 pm

      One out of a gift box indeed…

      Reply
  9. Julie says

    January 11, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    I cried too.Thank you for sharing that

    Reply
    • jennya says

      January 11, 2015 at 10:13 pm

      I’m glad that I wasn’t the only one! 🙂

      Reply

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