Where do the dead go?

We came speeding home when we got the message that my father in law was dying and got to the hospital late in the evening to be with him. Sitting quietly with him in the middle of the night, feeling the connection at such a sacred time, using our reiki healing to soothe and comfort his journey.

An early morning message that said “come quick if you want to be here” brought us speeding back to the hospital.

My husband and I both had our hands on and the reiki energy running hot when Jack just slipped away between one breath and the next, so peacefully. His wife and daughter were both crying, he had clearly died, but hubby and I looked questioningly at each other because our hands were still running hot. So we kept going.

There was a cross between a sound and a vibration and the most intense feeling of joy.

After a while, the heat in my hands kind of peaked before they turned off and in that split second there was the most incredible feeling – a cross between a sound and a vibration and the most intense feeling of joy as I saw / felt where he was going. In those moments afterwards as I struggled to describe it, I called it the sound of the angels singing.

I’ve never been afraid of death since. I’m in no hurry, but when it’s my time, bring it on…

In my experience, the connection with our loved ones doesn’t die.

I’ve often been called on to help people deal with the mental emotional and physical manifestations of grief. Yes the physical manifestations of grief. You wouldn’t believe how often people’s aches and pains and even physical illnesses have been caused by unresolved grief bottled up in their bodies.

So many of these cases involved people feeling a profound and reassuring connection with their dead loved one, that brought them great comfort. This story from Pathway to Heaven on Earth is just one person’s story of such a connection.

An excerpt from Pathway to Heaven on Earth.

Horses are amazing creatures and Rebekah’s horse Tui was the instigator of a wonderful experience during another one of our Spirit of Horse clinics. During the clinic, her grief at the recent death of her father became the predominant emotion for Rebekah to look at.

So it was about her grief that we were asking The Magic Questions. “So whose grief is it?” I asked her. “Mums” she replied and some of the intensity of it dropped away. “Is there any feeling left?” I asked. “Yes” she replied.

So we kept asking “Whose is it?” and “What do you need to know or do about it?” I can’t remember the answers now, even though they were important. The last question and answer were so big that they overshadowed everything else that I remember.

There wasn’t as much intensity left in the grief by the time we got to the last question and I can’t remember exactly the sequence of events, but Rebekah got to “what do you need to know or do” and had the profound experience of hearing the voice of her father saying … “I’m OK”. And her grief dropped away.

Now I know that it’s possible that this was not really her father talking, although there are more things in heaven and earth than we can touch and see, so I wouldn’t be too quick to label it vivid imagination. I too, had had a huge sense of his presence around her the whole day.

The fact remains, Rebekah’s grief dropped away and she found peace. So if all our emotions are messages from our soul, then it is difficult for me to believe that grief is any exception. I have believed for a long time that one message of grief is to prompt us to think about what we believe in about life after death and what happens to the soul when the physical body dies -and to examine that in great detail.

It has been my personal experience that to explore what I believe in, not what somebody else thinks I should believe in, has been a profound experience.

For those experiencing grief right now, please don’t misunderstand me. I am not making light of the depth of your grief. No two people are the same; no two experiences are the same; no two answers will be the same. I just invite those that are filled with grief to work their way through the process of asking:

1. Whose feeling is it?
2. What do I need to know or do about it?
3. Has the feeling all gone and if it hasn’t, keep asking the first two questions until it has.

And I invite the rest of you not to wait for grief to prompt you to think deeply about what you believe in about death. There’s almost as many ways of doing this as there are people on earth, so this is just a suggestion to get you started. You could carry a note book around, so that you can make notes of things that come up about what you believe in about death and the possibility of life after death.

You’ll find that something that you read will “fit nicely and comfortably into your heart”, so you’ll jot that down in your notebook. Then someone will say something or you’ll hear a line in a movie that also fits nicely into your heart, so you’ll jot those down too. Then a line of a song will do the same, so it goes into the notebook. A thought will “pop” into your mind – in it goes too.

And so on, until one day, you’ll look back over the notes you’ve made and find that there’s a whole pattern there about what you believe in that makes sense to you – that fits nicely and comfortably into your heart.

Or maybe you’ll get a blast of knowing and connection with someone, with a deep feeling of joy too.

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Today’s photo: I chose this photo of our herd leader Boots leading blind Bobby because it was not long before his death. I’d brought him back from degrees of blindness twice before – this was after he’d gone blind for the third time. You can check out “our” books (cos’ it sure as heck isn’t all me writing them!) at this link:

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