In the last couple of pages we’ve talked about jumping into people’s whirlpools and multiplying misery – so HOW can we best support people through their change places on the way to their goals and dreams without multiplying the situation for them and making any of their misery our own misery?
The answer to that is going to be as individual as the person we’re supporting and our own life skills too.
We can use that simple outward breath, smiling process that we’ve used before, and find our own inner guidance about how best to support that person’s change places on the way to THEIR goals and dreams:
While you’re reading, slooooow down and read the following words slowly and deliberately.
Pay gentle attention to your OUTWARD breath for a few breaths.
That’s it… feel me smiling, you know the drill by now… reading sloooowwww…. and at the same time notice the way that the lower part of your ribs move on that outward breath – the way that the ribs just kind of squash the air from your lungs. And you’re not doing that on purpose, you’re just smiling a little bit and noticing for a breath…
… and another breath…
… and another breath…
Still with your gentle attention on your outward breath, notice what changes on the inside of you when you smile with your eyes just a little. Ahhh even after all exercises, you can still feel the ease of the smile hey? Just notice the effect of that smileyness for a breath.
… and another breath…
… and another breath…
Here inside us is a place of awareness where we can get curious and find an openness and a willingness to understand ourselves and others, that transforms the way that we experience life. This is a place of awareness where we can practice the smiley curiosity about how ALL our feelings might be guiding us about ourselves and others – this time it’s about understanding how best we can support someone who’s going through something really crappy.
And another outward breath
And another.
Whether the understanding of that guidance flows now.
Or later, doesn’t matter.
Knowing that the answer or the understanding will come when the time is perfect.
Ahhhh and smiling for just another breath…
… and another breath…
… and another breath…
Ahhhh…
If you have any trouble with this one, bring it into a Live Event and put your hand up for some help. You’ll need a headset with a microphone for WebCall or come in on one of the local call cost international phone numbers that I provide the details of, on every live event email.
This photo by Leonie Leighton of her beloved sheep in New Zealand made me laugh when I picked it for this email – Don’t be a sheep following someone else into their misery – be their catalyst for the kind of change that will help them reach their dreams instead. I laugh at that common idea of sheep – they are sooo much smarter than we think they are!
