Following on from yesterday. So… does that mean that the best result is got from Fred speaking his mind – spouting off about what he thinks and feels?
Errr … no… That would probably make his friend defensive and produce the opposite result to what Fred is trying to do, which is to be a good friend.
It takes just ONE of the parties in an upset, to go into their Inner Awareness, to get their Inner Guidance and understand all about what’s REALLY going on here and pfft! that’s the sound of YOUR END of the upset just over – that’s YOUR peacefulness – and that’s the ESCALATION over.
The other person is still doing their stuff, but we’re no longer adding to it – in fact we’re creating a safe “place”, a safe or safer feeling from which they can find their perfect solution.
That’s peace on earth right there. Bringing our awareness to what we’re feeling with ANY interaction with someone else, where we’re willing to understand where they’re really coming from, that’s peace in our little corner of the earth right there…
So HOW do we get that peace in our corner of the earth?
Curiosity “Is that true?” Can we really de-escalate an upset by understanding our connection to others and our own feelings?
Curiosity “what are these feelings telling me about this person and this situation?”
Curiosity about every aspect of that upset that comes up, until you have inner peace around it.
This photo of her dog Luna was taken by Robyn Hood of TTouch and TTeam fame. I have long admired Robyn’s skill and knowledge about dogs and horses. The balanced leash leading that Robyn is demonstrating in the video saved my Meremma’s life. She was born with crooked legs and this leading combined with my “perfect posture” work suggested by Robyn, strengthened her legs and saved us from putting her down with chronic pain and lameness at six months old. Ask me how in a live event one day. (Click here for Robyn’s video.)