So which kind of creation do we want? The struggling variety that makes us feel powerless and disguises our potential for changing the things that we care most about? Or the “move through the change places of even the really BIIIGGGG stuff fairly easy and frequently happy” variety?
Here’s another angle on Escalating Upsets just to make sure we’ve gotten well and truly curious and open and willing about all those wonderful possibilities. 🙂
When we’re escalating someone else – each time we’re feeling someone else and not realizing it and not paying attention and not figuring out what we need to know or do – then we are missing one of those change places that are actually helping us to create what WE want. And we’re bouncing around in the same place like in the diagram above, feeling like we’re struggling – feeling crappy.
Here’s the good news! There’s a reason for us to feel someone else’s feelings – its not random – there is always something to know or do about it. Invariably, this upset in a relationship, when it’s understood and you’ve figured it out, is going to help your reach your dreams too. And I get that you’re going to have to feel and see and work out your own Truth around that for yourself too.
So keep this in mind for the next page – understanding old upsets with people, understanding even toxic relationships, understanding all those relationships that you feel crappy about – it’s actually going to help you to reach your goals and dreams.