I mean REALLY look at the horse people around you. Soften your eyes by smiling with them a little and without judgement or criticism (and this is very important, without judgment or criticism) – just with observation – notice how tight and tense most horses are. Notice their reactions when they’re ridden. Look at the horse’s eyes.
Google “horse photos ridden”. And again, with soft non-judgmental eyes, look at the horses.
Are their eyes soft, alive, interested and happy?
Is their horse turning itself inside out to co-operate with them?
Are the horse’s movements smooth and flowing and easy to ride?
Is the rider sitting beautifully still with signals to their horse so subtle that you can’t see them?
Do horse and rider just FLOW together as one?
And does it gladden your heart to watch them?
Do you REALLY want what these people have got?
Or do you want what Frederic Pignon has with his horses for example? Do you want a horse that can switch from high performance in the arena to a relaxing trail ride out in the bush or the forest or the quiet country roads? Do you want an easy to handle, happy horse to catch, saddle, bridle or ride bridleless with safety and freedom and joy?
Do you want a happy, expressive, healthy horse filled with mental, emotional and physical well-being?
I hear from people a lot, those people who dare to be different with their horses, that from time to time they struggle with other people’s perceptions of what they are doing. If they and their horse are not ready for riding safely yet, then they feel questioned and under pressure to “get on that horse and ride” from others. If they listen and are considerate to their horses and don’t want to hit them or use punishment and dominance as a training method – they feel weak under the stern eye of other people in their environment who think that they know better.
I was listening to Marie Forleo a few weeks ago (if you have a business you would LOVE her business philosophy) – on a similar topic and it suddenly dawned on me…
DO YOU REALLY WANT WHAT THEY’VE GOT?
Stop and think about that for a minute. I mean REALLY stop and think about that. Do they have a heart connection with their horse that gladdens their heart every time they go out to work with their horse? Does their horse turn themselves inside out to do what they want like the little Brumby did in that article about Frederic Pignon a couple of blogs back? Are they bubbling with happiness with a horse who is bubbling with happiness? Are they confident on a confident horse under just about all circumstances? Does their horse love to learn new things? Do they have a healthy happy horse in self carriage whose stride is rhythmic and comfortable to ride? Do they have a horse who is a soft and willing partner? Do they have to stop and turn by pulling on the reins, or does their horse just flow with their rider in harmony?
Are they working happily together with their horse to achieve those things?
Do they think of their horse as a thinking, feeling, intelligent being or is their horse a furry motor bike?
Do you REALLY want what they’ve got?
Why would we listen to what these people say if we want something so different to them?
Our OWN individual and unique Inner Guidance system will give us what WE are looking for from our horse, just like other people are getting what THEY want from their horse in their own way – sometimes successfully, sometimes not.
But sure as God made little green apples, we will not get what WE want, by listening to other people who don’t even have what it is that we want.
And aim high. Be INSPIRED by someone like Frederic Pignon, someone with his high standards – but even he – you won’t get what he’s got by trying to be like him. You’ll get what he’s got by embracing the amazing individual that YOU are, embracing YOUR uniqueness, embracing the amazing and unique individual that your horse is, by developing your Inner Guidance system to be a reliable “feel” for your horse.
Through our OWN path – through our OWN feel – lies the Magic.
Ordinary people being extraordinary – everyone can have their version of the Pignon Magic.